“Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not ‘if only’. Not ‘as long as’. I matter equally. Full stop.”
A 66 pager we didn’t know we needed.
I have been avoiding many works from this specific author because I was generally avoiding mainstream work and getting in the habit of reading other African authors, especially those that are upcoming.
We’ve all heard the voice of Ms. Adichie echo in the Flawless Beyonce feature, and ran to listen to her Ted Talk and read her books. Personally I want to thank Beyonce for introducing me to Ms. Adichie. Her work is impeccable.
This book is personal, a letter of advice on how to raise a feminist, not that she claims to know everything there is to know other than sharing the bit that she has discovered to be the problem in gender politics in society and in how we raise children according to their sex.
“Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.”
Chimamanda explores gender dynamics in the home and in society, how children are raised and what kind of adults they might become. She explores identity, sexism, misogyny, education, child development, self-awareness and yes, feminism. A book not only necessary for parents, but for the lot of us that are unlearning and raising our inner child. This book is necessary especially in a society where there are different expectations for a girl child compared to a boy child, where a woman is expected to completely merge her identity into her husband after marriage. A must read. I recommend this book to everyone.
Go forth and “Be a full person”.